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  • Writer's picturemichelasborchia
    • Aug 13

Facing the Storm: Strategies for Embracing and Thriving Through Change

The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance. - Alan Watts -

Change can be challenging. It doesn’t matter if it is something you have been planning or if it comes out of the blue. When change knocks at your door, there is little you can do or say to send it away. Even if you don’t open it, the whirlwind of change will knock the door down, destroy your windows and force itself into your life. You may pretend everything is the same, hide under the bed and wait for the “change” to go, or you can face it, which means acknowledging its presence and adapting to it, surrendering to its unrelenting force.

Change, the only constant in human life, is an inevitability we all must face. Embracing this truth can help you navigate it with more acceptance and less resistance, fostering a sense of adaptability and resilience.

Throughout my life, I have experienced many types of change. Sometimes, it was relatively easy, and other times, it was profoundly challenging. But looking back at my life, even the most effortless transitions always brought a certain degree of grief. I had to allow myself to feel that grief and learn from it.

Change, no matter how difficult, always brings valuable lessons and opportunities for growth, instilling a sense of optimism and open-mindedness.

In this blog post, I would like to help people navigate change, and I asked myself these questions to find a better way to a better understanding of this process:

· How can individuals effectively cope with unexpected and challenging life changes?

· In what ways can rituals and routines help individuals navigate through periods of significant change?

· What are some effective strategies for prioritising mental health while experiencing significant life changes?

· How can individuals cultivate self-compassion and acceptance during times of transition and change?

· What are some impactful ways to take responsibility for one’s reality during change?

These are my options:

1. First and foremost, my inner work is essential when I experience change. This ‘inner work’ involves self-reflection, meditation, and other practices that help me understand and accept the change. I increase my meditation, adjust it, and keep moving inward. I have tried many different types of meditation and inner alchemy, and it doesn’t matter which one I do as long as I continue to practice. Sometimes, simply feeling my heart beat under my hands, I know my life is working to lead me where I need to be.

2. I create rituals for the change I am experiencing. I sit down with my past, present, and future, reflecting on how the change has affected me and the people in my life and how I can move forward. The ritual I designed works for me, and you should find the one that works for you. If you don’t know anything about ritual, contact me. I can help you.

3. If you feel that your mental health needs help, working with a therapist while you move through change is a must. You can look for alternative healing strategies or rely on traditional psychotherapy. You can use both, too. Remember that you are creating a new life and birthing yourself while changing. Be loving and compassionate towards yourself, and accept where you are, who you are, and what happened in the past.

4. During transformative times, the importance of self-care becomes starkly apparent. Remember, self-care is not a luxury but a necessity, especially during times of change. It’s essential to prioritise your well-being and take the time to nurture yourselves.

5. It’s essential to Stop the blame game and take responsibility for your reality. Sometimes, things end because they have to end for you to change, grow, heal, and become more conscious. Blaming someone else is not helpful and will create toxic energy you don’t want to bring to the next chapter. Consciously or unconsciously, you are the creators of your reality. Change doesn’t happen just because… it happens for a reason. That reason is you! Sending Love to the part of you that has created that change can create a sense of bliss that can help you move on with faith.

6. Understanding these stages can help us in times of change: acceptance of what is happening, transition/transformation, and embracing the new.

Acceptance is the first step in the journey of change. It may be the most challenging step, especially if the change is unexpected. It may take time to surrender and accept the transformation in your life. But you can reach that point through inner work by simply sitting with the ‘change’ and acknowledging its presence. Taking charge of your life and owning your thoughts, actions, and words requires honesty and authenticity. But these are the energies you need to feel: honesty, authenticity, and Love. Writing a letter to the past and the future may help you during transitions and transformations.

Transition is another keyword. Change arrives, and you move into the unknown. You keep saying, “I don’t know how to move on. What’s going to happen now? I don’t know what to do.” You are filled with doubts and hesitations. You don’t see where to go, what to do, or how to move with change. In those cases, I always say to myself, “Don’t do anything.” Sometimes, you have to become passive somehow and let the change unfold. “I don’t know”, but it’s OK! Don’t expect to change quickly. You don’t need to know exactly what to do straight away. If you are lucky, it can happen, but most of the time, change requires you to sit alone, with yourself and your energy, without doing anything. You can create short-term goals to help you move forward while the significant change happens within so that it can manifest.

Between transition and a new beginning. There is a time between old and new when you may feel desperate for answers. When this happens, please remember to be careful where you place your trust. I have seen people giving up their energy and power to other people in an attempt to make sense of the chaos and find answers for the future. I have seen them looking for answers everywhere except from inside themselves, and in the process, they willingly surrendered who they were, their power and energy to others. You know precisely what to do, where, and what steps to take. Sometimes, you need to stop and sit still before moving forward. If your answer doesn’t come straight away, don’t push it. Sit in the present moment and just be.

New Beginnings! Finally, you are here. Change happened, and your life went upside down for a while. Now, you are bathing in the energy of the new. Life is getting exciting, and it’s the right time to start thinking about the big goals and the things you want to accomplish and start moving forward again.

7. I have written down some rituals to help you navigate the different stages of change.

Love

Michela Sborchia

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